Many brides wake up on their wedding day anxious about how the day will pan out. Will the caterer forget your vegetarian cousin? What time will your makeup artist or hair stylist get to you? What will the weather be like?
So many questions, and unfortunately not many answers. As a bride, you can’t control most of the things that can go wrong on your wedding day. However, there are plenty of ways to try to ease the stress of the day, and even a few ways to make sure some of the bad things don’t happen. Here is my top 10 Ways to Avoid Stress on Your Wedding Day and avoid becoming a Bridezilla!
1. Check wedding vendor reviews, references, and testimonials.
Checking their reviews will help give you peace of mind, so you know that you can rely on them. These are the people who you’re paying to make sure that everything runs smoothly, after all! Make sure that they have done weddings before, and that they have contingency plans in place.
2. Exercise regularly/get outside!
This may sound like a no-brainer, but give yourself (and your future partner) some time away from the planning. It is stressful, and there are probably a lot of things that you don’t agree on – who sits at what table, what colours will your bridal party have, do you want cake or cupcakes, what song will your first dance be – and it goes on and on! Go outside, get a breath of fresh air, play or cuddle with a pet, or just get up and go for a workout! Exercise will help release endorphins to keep you happy and relaxed, and will help ease tensions and stress between you and your better half.
3. Prepare an “Emergency Bridal Kit”.
Have anything you might need ready to go on the big day. Every wedding is different, but there are a few essentials you might need:
– Tylenol (or your favourite pain reliever)
– Water bottle
– Clear nail polish, for runs in stockings
– Nail tools, such as clippers and a file
– Extra earring backs, if needed
– Extra panty hose
– Bobby pins/hair elastics
– Hair spray
– Double-sided tape, or fabric tape/hem tape
– Safety pins
– Mini sewing kit (including small folding scissors)
– Tide to Go (or your favourite spot remover)
– To go Tissues
– Breath mints
– Hair brush or comb
– Touch-up makeup, including a mirror
– Your feminine product of choice (in case Aunt Flo decides to visit)
– Super Glue
4. Have a back up plan.
If your wedding day is rainy, your dream outdoor photoshoot may get rained out as well. Make sure you have a back up plan – find an indoor location, or agree with your partner that you will try to get a few shots in the rain. Don’t plan a full second wedding just in case everything fails, but have trust in your weddings vendors and make sure they have back up plans in case their employees can’t or aren’t able to make it on the big day. That way, you won’t be stressing or freaking out on the day of because your three-piece band didn’t show up and the DJ wants to charge extra to play during the ceremony.
5. Host a bridal party lunch on you.
This is a great way to relax with your girls/guys before your wedding, and to show them how much you appreciate them working hard to make your day the best it can be. Host a lunch at your house, or, to help ease the tension even more, take them out to lunch at a great restaurant! This will give them a chance to realize that you haven’t gone completely “bridezila” and you’re still the person they loved when you met!
6. Have a dress/tuxedo fitting one week before your big day.
Your body can change a whole lot under all that stress! For tuxedos, see if you can get another fitting a week before the wedding. Double-check measurements, especially if you’re renting a suit. I have run into so many situations where the guys get their suit from the rental company, and the pants are too big or the vest is the wrong colour and one of the groomsmen has to drive to another city because that’s the only location that has it! A last check up will give you peace of mind so that you know that your dress or tuxedo will fit perfectly and you will feel amazing.
7. Consider having an unplugged wedding.
Unplugged weddings have started to become much more popular in the days saturated with smartphones, tablets, and social media. Many brides have had their first wedding picture posted by their cousin, on Facebook, only a few hours after the ceremony! If that photo isn’t flattering or you would prefer to wait for your professional photography to show your best shots, an unplugged wedding may be for you!
You can have your officiant make an announcement, or you can make a fun sign asking people to stay involved in your ceremony. Another option is to make your friends and family part of the ceremony by getting them actively involved by giving them signs, or asking them to react to the different parts of the ceremony, etc. This will even make your ceremony more intimate, and show your friends and family how much they mean to you!
8. Stay on schedule on the day of.
Make sure you schedule enough time for make-up, hair, and any other preparations. Make-up artists can take up to two hours per person, so speak with your MUA (make-up artist) and ask them how long they usually spend on make-up. Do the same thing for the hair stylists. You will thank yourself later – MUAs and hair stylists are one of the biggest reasons for days getting late. Once your day is off by more than 15 minutes, it’s tough to get back on track – especially if you’re late for your ceremony! If you start to get behind schedule, see if there are time-cutting ways to speed up the process, and try to have a plan in place so that you can speed up the schedule and stay on track for your day!
9. Eat and/or stay hydrated.
Stress can wreak havoc on your body – so you will want to keep your body as satiated and hydrated as possible. Make sure you drink enough water, and eat enough to make sure you’re not starving – even if you just have small snacks or fruit to keep you from getting too hungry throughout the day.
10. Delegate, delegate, delegate.
When crises arise on your wedding day, you will not want to deal with them. Have someone (maid of honour, best man, brother, sister, mother, father?) be ready to deal with vendors who have questions, and make sure those vendors know who to go to. Give your delegate a run-through of any details they might need to know, and choose someone you can trust, who can deal with situations easily and without getting stressed out themselves.
I hope these tips helped! If you have any comments or questions, feel free to comment below or connect with me on social media! 🙂